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Phoebe Gates Went by a Different Last Name Until High School to Avoid the Spotlight

MarketDash Editorial Team
10 days ago
Bill and Melinda Gates deliberately kept their children from using the Gates surname until high school, opting instead for Melinda's maiden name. The goal was authentic friendships and middle-class values, not secrecy for its own sake.

Having Bill Gates as your father sounds like the ultimate privilege, but his daughter Phoebe didn't even use his last name until high school. That decision was deliberate, strategic, and according to her, absolutely necessary.

On a recent episode of her podcast "The Burnouts," the 22-year-old Stanford graduate explained how her parents orchestrated what amounts to a childhood alias. "My parents were really intentional about making sure we didn't use my dad's last name Gates until we were in high school—we went by my mom's last name," she said. "And it really allowed me to be able to make friends in like a really authentic way."

Melinda's Middle-Class Blueprint

The strategy came from Melinda French Gates, who had strong opinions about how wealth shapes childhood long before her 2021 divorce from Bill split one of the world's most high-profile marriages.

"I had been around a lot of kids from wealth in college," Melinda said in a joint Vogue interview with her daughters published this month. "And I knew how I did not want my children to turn out. I really thought about some of the middle-class values I grew up with."

So the Gates children became the French children, at least for their elementary years. Melinda even delayed letting Bill drop them off at school for the first few weeks, making sure their classmates wouldn't immediately connect the dots between their unassuming dad and the tech billionaire who dominated the Forbes list for 18 years.

Identity on Their Own Terms

The point wasn't elaborate secrecy. It was giving the kids space to figure out who they were before the world decided for them.

"Before I'd be like, 'Oh, this is my family' or like 'This is who I'm related to. Come over to my house,' I don't think it would have necessarily been good for me to be fully like in the spotlight as a child," Phoebe said on her podcast.

When the time came to choose, each child made their own call. In a March Elle Women of Impact feature, Melinda explained the handoff: "I wanted the kids to be seen for who they were. My oldest daughter went in with Gates; she felt like she was ready to take that name on. My son chose not to. He used French all the way through high school."

The Name Carries Weight

And it's easy to see why the name would carry baggage. Bill Gates still lives in Xanadu 2.0, his 66,000-square-foot compound on Lake Washington that includes six kitchens, 24 bathrooms, a trampoline room, and an indoor pool. Gates has said he has no plans to downsize, calling it a "gigantic" home he still enjoys and one his kids like returning to, which he considers a "luxury."

But Melinda's approach was clear: her children could inherit the fortune without inheriting the assumptions, at least not until they were ready. They'd get the last name eventually, but only after they'd built their own identities first. It turns out that even when you're born into one of the richest families on the planet, sometimes the best gift your parents can give you is a little anonymity.

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Phoebe Gates Went by a Different Last Name Until High School to Avoid the Spotlight

MarketDash Editorial Team
10 days ago
Bill and Melinda Gates deliberately kept their children from using the Gates surname until high school, opting instead for Melinda's maiden name. The goal was authentic friendships and middle-class values, not secrecy for its own sake.

Having Bill Gates as your father sounds like the ultimate privilege, but his daughter Phoebe didn't even use his last name until high school. That decision was deliberate, strategic, and according to her, absolutely necessary.

On a recent episode of her podcast "The Burnouts," the 22-year-old Stanford graduate explained how her parents orchestrated what amounts to a childhood alias. "My parents were really intentional about making sure we didn't use my dad's last name Gates until we were in high school—we went by my mom's last name," she said. "And it really allowed me to be able to make friends in like a really authentic way."

Melinda's Middle-Class Blueprint

The strategy came from Melinda French Gates, who had strong opinions about how wealth shapes childhood long before her 2021 divorce from Bill split one of the world's most high-profile marriages.

"I had been around a lot of kids from wealth in college," Melinda said in a joint Vogue interview with her daughters published this month. "And I knew how I did not want my children to turn out. I really thought about some of the middle-class values I grew up with."

So the Gates children became the French children, at least for their elementary years. Melinda even delayed letting Bill drop them off at school for the first few weeks, making sure their classmates wouldn't immediately connect the dots between their unassuming dad and the tech billionaire who dominated the Forbes list for 18 years.

Identity on Their Own Terms

The point wasn't elaborate secrecy. It was giving the kids space to figure out who they were before the world decided for them.

"Before I'd be like, 'Oh, this is my family' or like 'This is who I'm related to. Come over to my house,' I don't think it would have necessarily been good for me to be fully like in the spotlight as a child," Phoebe said on her podcast.

When the time came to choose, each child made their own call. In a March Elle Women of Impact feature, Melinda explained the handoff: "I wanted the kids to be seen for who they were. My oldest daughter went in with Gates; she felt like she was ready to take that name on. My son chose not to. He used French all the way through high school."

The Name Carries Weight

And it's easy to see why the name would carry baggage. Bill Gates still lives in Xanadu 2.0, his 66,000-square-foot compound on Lake Washington that includes six kitchens, 24 bathrooms, a trampoline room, and an indoor pool. Gates has said he has no plans to downsize, calling it a "gigantic" home he still enjoys and one his kids like returning to, which he considers a "luxury."

But Melinda's approach was clear: her children could inherit the fortune without inheriting the assumptions, at least not until they were ready. They'd get the last name eventually, but only after they'd built their own identities first. It turns out that even when you're born into one of the richest families on the planet, sometimes the best gift your parents can give you is a little anonymity.