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Millennials Dream of Simple Living: Moving Back Home, Low-Wage Jobs, and Opting Out

MarketDash Editorial Team
3 days ago
A Reddit discussion reveals millennials fantasizing about escaping high-stress careers for simpler living at home with parents and minimum wage work. Reality check: it's more complicated than the daydream suggests.

When the American Dream Feels More Like a Nightmare

Here's a Thanksgiving conversation starter that apparently hit a nerve: What if you just... stopped? Stopped chasing promotions, stopped worrying about mortgage payments, stopped trying to meet everyone's expectations. What if you moved back in with your parents, took a simple job, and embraced a radically downsized life?

That's the question a millennial posed on Reddit's r/Millennials forum, and it unleashed a flood of responses from people who've either lived it, considered it, or think it's a terrible idea.

The post described a conversation with his sister, a management consultant who owns her home and has achieved conventional success by every measure. Yet she confessed to daydreaming about something entirely different.

"She started talking about how she wishes she didn't go to college, worked some menial minimum wage job, and continued to live at home," the poster wrote. But there's a complication: "Our parents are immigrants who worked very hard... they would have been very disappointed if she opted out of those opportunities to do something like that."

So we're talking about privilege meeting exhaustion, essentially. The luxury to even consider opting out when your parents sacrificed everything so you wouldn't have to.

The Grass Is Always Greener (Until You Actually Move Back)

Plenty of commenters admitted the fantasy is real. "Honestly, I think a lot of us have daydreamed about just coasting at home with zero responsibilities," one person wrote. When burnout becomes your baseline, the idea of low-stakes living sounds pretty appealing.

But people who've actually done it offered a reality check. "I promise you, you are romanticizing living at home. It's not that great once you are older and want privacy," one commenter warned. Another pointed out the obvious: "Even when you're close to your parents, you can drive each other nuts."

The emotional toll matters too. "It is not a vacation, and it is wildly discouraging," one person said. Another was blunt: "I lived with my mom in my early 20s... there is no way I think I could ever go back unless I absolutely had no choice."

That said, some people have made it work. The key seems to be treating it like an actual living arrangement between adults, not reverting to childhood dependency. "I live with my parents and the trick is not to be a burden," one commenter explained. "I split groceries and pay my fair share of the bills. At some point it has to become a mutually beneficial arrangement rather than an exploitive one."

About That Stress-Free Minimum Wage Job

The other piece of this fantasy, working a low-responsibility minimum wage job, also got pushback. Hard pushback.

"Anyone who fantasizes about working a menial minimum wage job is out of touch with the reality of that lifestyle," one person wrote. "It is not relaxing, it is often stressful and degrading."

Someone who experienced both sides after getting laid off from a six-figure position put it bluntly: "Your sister is nuts. Naive at a minimum. It was mind-numbing."

Another commenter drove the point home: "Minimum wage jobs are not fun or low stress most of the time. It's just as bad or worse than a corporate job and you get paid horribly on top of it."

The fantasy assumes low-wage work means low stress, but retail workers and service employees will tell you that dealing with the public, unpredictable schedules, and financial insecurity brings its own special kind of exhaustion.

Cultural Context Matters

Several people pointed out that living with family well into adulthood is completely normal in many cultures. "In Latin America many people live like that and it's normal... You help at home, buy groceries, help with bills," one person explained. "It's just a different culture."

The American expectation that you must move out immediately after college and never look back isn't universal. In many places, multigenerational living is practical, economical, and socially accepted.

Maybe the real issue isn't whether living at home is good or bad, but whether you're doing it out of genuine choice or desperate necessity. And whether you're contributing or just coasting.

One commenter offered this perspective: "If your sister is tired of her lifestyle stressors she can make changes to live a simpler life." You don't necessarily have to move back home and work retail. You could downsize, change careers, or redefine success on your own terms.

The fantasy reveals something real though: a lot of millennials feel trapped by the very success they worked so hard to achieve. That's worth paying attention to, even if the escape plan needs some workshopping.

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Millennials Dream of Simple Living: Moving Back Home, Low-Wage Jobs, and Opting Out

MarketDash Editorial Team
3 days ago
A Reddit discussion reveals millennials fantasizing about escaping high-stress careers for simpler living at home with parents and minimum wage work. Reality check: it's more complicated than the daydream suggests.

When the American Dream Feels More Like a Nightmare

Here's a Thanksgiving conversation starter that apparently hit a nerve: What if you just... stopped? Stopped chasing promotions, stopped worrying about mortgage payments, stopped trying to meet everyone's expectations. What if you moved back in with your parents, took a simple job, and embraced a radically downsized life?

That's the question a millennial posed on Reddit's r/Millennials forum, and it unleashed a flood of responses from people who've either lived it, considered it, or think it's a terrible idea.

The post described a conversation with his sister, a management consultant who owns her home and has achieved conventional success by every measure. Yet she confessed to daydreaming about something entirely different.

"She started talking about how she wishes she didn't go to college, worked some menial minimum wage job, and continued to live at home," the poster wrote. But there's a complication: "Our parents are immigrants who worked very hard... they would have been very disappointed if she opted out of those opportunities to do something like that."

So we're talking about privilege meeting exhaustion, essentially. The luxury to even consider opting out when your parents sacrificed everything so you wouldn't have to.

The Grass Is Always Greener (Until You Actually Move Back)

Plenty of commenters admitted the fantasy is real. "Honestly, I think a lot of us have daydreamed about just coasting at home with zero responsibilities," one person wrote. When burnout becomes your baseline, the idea of low-stakes living sounds pretty appealing.

But people who've actually done it offered a reality check. "I promise you, you are romanticizing living at home. It's not that great once you are older and want privacy," one commenter warned. Another pointed out the obvious: "Even when you're close to your parents, you can drive each other nuts."

The emotional toll matters too. "It is not a vacation, and it is wildly discouraging," one person said. Another was blunt: "I lived with my mom in my early 20s... there is no way I think I could ever go back unless I absolutely had no choice."

That said, some people have made it work. The key seems to be treating it like an actual living arrangement between adults, not reverting to childhood dependency. "I live with my parents and the trick is not to be a burden," one commenter explained. "I split groceries and pay my fair share of the bills. At some point it has to become a mutually beneficial arrangement rather than an exploitive one."

About That Stress-Free Minimum Wage Job

The other piece of this fantasy, working a low-responsibility minimum wage job, also got pushback. Hard pushback.

"Anyone who fantasizes about working a menial minimum wage job is out of touch with the reality of that lifestyle," one person wrote. "It is not relaxing, it is often stressful and degrading."

Someone who experienced both sides after getting laid off from a six-figure position put it bluntly: "Your sister is nuts. Naive at a minimum. It was mind-numbing."

Another commenter drove the point home: "Minimum wage jobs are not fun or low stress most of the time. It's just as bad or worse than a corporate job and you get paid horribly on top of it."

The fantasy assumes low-wage work means low stress, but retail workers and service employees will tell you that dealing with the public, unpredictable schedules, and financial insecurity brings its own special kind of exhaustion.

Cultural Context Matters

Several people pointed out that living with family well into adulthood is completely normal in many cultures. "In Latin America many people live like that and it's normal... You help at home, buy groceries, help with bills," one person explained. "It's just a different culture."

The American expectation that you must move out immediately after college and never look back isn't universal. In many places, multigenerational living is practical, economical, and socially accepted.

Maybe the real issue isn't whether living at home is good or bad, but whether you're doing it out of genuine choice or desperate necessity. And whether you're contributing or just coasting.

One commenter offered this perspective: "If your sister is tired of her lifestyle stressors she can make changes to live a simpler life." You don't necessarily have to move back home and work retail. You could downsize, change careers, or redefine success on your own terms.

The fantasy reveals something real though: a lot of millennials feel trapped by the very success they worked so hard to achieve. That's worth paying attention to, even if the escape plan needs some workshopping.