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Law Student Calls $1M Inheritance A 'Sacred Gift From God' But Won't Tell His Fiancée About It

MarketDash Editorial Team
4 hours ago
A 26-year-old law student inherited $1 million but hasn't told his fiancée of four years. Now he's wrestling with whether to help her parents with their $25,000 debt in China, and Dave Ramsey says the inheritance isn't the real problem here.

Here's a situation that starts awkward and gets worse. A 26-year-old law student from New York recently called into "The Ramsey Show" with what he thought was a question about money. Turns out, it was really a question about honesty.

The caller, Nathaniel, had quite the setup to explain. He's debt-free, has a corporate law job lined up after graduation, and oh yes, he inherited about $1 million a few years back. Not a bad position to be in, all things considered.

A Million Dollar Secret

"I treat it like a sacred gift from God, and I feel like I have a responsibility to be a really excellent steward of it," Nathaniel told personal finance experts Dave Ramsey and Jade Warshaw.

The money sits in a trust account that only he controls. He works with a financial adviser to protect the principal and lives well below his means. "I live a lifestyle which doesn't at all reflect that I have the pot of gold behind me," he explained.

He's been with his fiancée for four years. She's a pianist with essentially no income potential and wants to be a stay-at-home mom. Nathaniel's fine with that arrangement since he'll be the breadwinner. She has no debts and no assets. She also has no idea about the $1 million inheritance.

Yeah, that's the problem.

The Family Debt Dilemma

But wait, Nathaniel called in about a different issue entirely. His fiancée's parents live in China and recently made a spectacularly bad financial decision. They mortgaged their paid-off apartment to invest in something risky, lost everything, and now they're about $25,000 in debt.

"On the one hand, they're family. I could pay off their debt like literally 40 times over. Would I be a jerk not to?" he asked. "But on the other hand, part of me doesn't really feel like using my money, soon to be our money, to help people who in retirement, mortgage their only safe asset for leverage in a single risky investment."

To be clear, nobody has asked him for help. Not the in-laws, not his fiancée. In fact, his fiancée doesn't even know there's money available to offer.

Ramsey's Verdict: The Real Problem Isn't The Debt

"You don't go another day promising to marry somebody and you're keeping secrets from them," Ramsey said bluntly. "Unhealthy, dude, unhealthy."

Both Ramsey and Warshaw zeroed in on the deception as the actual crisis here. "If you have to deceive someone because you're worried about their authenticity, we don't marry them," Ramsey explained. Warshaw added a sharp observation: "Honestly, that's more on his authenticity than hers."

Their advice was immediate and non-negotiable. "You need to get on the phone. You guys need to sit down in the next 24 hours and talk about this," Ramsey told him.

And Yes, About That $25,000

As for the original question about the in-laws' debt, Ramsey acknowledged it's relatively small money in context. "There's not an ethical or legal, as you know, mandate that you take care of them, but it is a small amount of money compared to the amount of money you're dealing with."

The concern, he noted, is whether this was a one-time mistake or part of a pattern. "You don't want to do that if they're going to turn around and do the same kind of stupid stuff again," he cautioned.

Ramsey wrapped it up with a reality check on priorities: "Nine out of 10, Nathaniel needs to come clean. One out of 10, pay off the $25K or don't. That's how this weighs out."

Translation: The money question is easy compared to the trust question. And right now, Nathaniel has a much bigger problem than whether to write a check to his future in-laws.

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Law Student Calls $1M Inheritance A 'Sacred Gift From God' But Won't Tell His Fiancée About It

MarketDash Editorial Team
4 hours ago
A 26-year-old law student inherited $1 million but hasn't told his fiancée of four years. Now he's wrestling with whether to help her parents with their $25,000 debt in China, and Dave Ramsey says the inheritance isn't the real problem here.

Here's a situation that starts awkward and gets worse. A 26-year-old law student from New York recently called into "The Ramsey Show" with what he thought was a question about money. Turns out, it was really a question about honesty.

The caller, Nathaniel, had quite the setup to explain. He's debt-free, has a corporate law job lined up after graduation, and oh yes, he inherited about $1 million a few years back. Not a bad position to be in, all things considered.

A Million Dollar Secret

"I treat it like a sacred gift from God, and I feel like I have a responsibility to be a really excellent steward of it," Nathaniel told personal finance experts Dave Ramsey and Jade Warshaw.

The money sits in a trust account that only he controls. He works with a financial adviser to protect the principal and lives well below his means. "I live a lifestyle which doesn't at all reflect that I have the pot of gold behind me," he explained.

He's been with his fiancée for four years. She's a pianist with essentially no income potential and wants to be a stay-at-home mom. Nathaniel's fine with that arrangement since he'll be the breadwinner. She has no debts and no assets. She also has no idea about the $1 million inheritance.

Yeah, that's the problem.

The Family Debt Dilemma

But wait, Nathaniel called in about a different issue entirely. His fiancée's parents live in China and recently made a spectacularly bad financial decision. They mortgaged their paid-off apartment to invest in something risky, lost everything, and now they're about $25,000 in debt.

"On the one hand, they're family. I could pay off their debt like literally 40 times over. Would I be a jerk not to?" he asked. "But on the other hand, part of me doesn't really feel like using my money, soon to be our money, to help people who in retirement, mortgage their only safe asset for leverage in a single risky investment."

To be clear, nobody has asked him for help. Not the in-laws, not his fiancée. In fact, his fiancée doesn't even know there's money available to offer.

Ramsey's Verdict: The Real Problem Isn't The Debt

"You don't go another day promising to marry somebody and you're keeping secrets from them," Ramsey said bluntly. "Unhealthy, dude, unhealthy."

Both Ramsey and Warshaw zeroed in on the deception as the actual crisis here. "If you have to deceive someone because you're worried about their authenticity, we don't marry them," Ramsey explained. Warshaw added a sharp observation: "Honestly, that's more on his authenticity than hers."

Their advice was immediate and non-negotiable. "You need to get on the phone. You guys need to sit down in the next 24 hours and talk about this," Ramsey told him.

And Yes, About That $25,000

As for the original question about the in-laws' debt, Ramsey acknowledged it's relatively small money in context. "There's not an ethical or legal, as you know, mandate that you take care of them, but it is a small amount of money compared to the amount of money you're dealing with."

The concern, he noted, is whether this was a one-time mistake or part of a pattern. "You don't want to do that if they're going to turn around and do the same kind of stupid stuff again," he cautioned.

Ramsey wrapped it up with a reality check on priorities: "Nine out of 10, Nathaniel needs to come clean. One out of 10, pay off the $25K or don't. That's how this weighs out."

Translation: The money question is easy compared to the trust question. And right now, Nathaniel has a much bigger problem than whether to write a check to his future in-laws.