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Dave Ramsey Opens Up About His Biggest Parenting Struggle: Controlling His Grown Children

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3 hours ago
Personal finance guru Dave Ramsey admits that being good with money created an unexpected problem in his parenting journey. The wealth expert reveals how his controlling tendencies became a real challenge once his children grew up and started making their own decisions.

Personal finance expert Dave Ramsey has a confession: the same control instincts that made him wealthy have made parenting significantly harder. Turns out, being good at managing money often spills over into trying to manage everything else, including the lives of your grown children.

While responding to a question from a 28-year-old man dealing with wealthy in-laws demanding a prenup, Ramsey got candid about how accumulating wealth changes people. As bank accounts grow, so does the impulse to control outcomes. Money gives you the power to manage countless "variables" in life, which is great for building wealth but becomes problematic when you try applying that same approach to relationships.

When Your Kids Stop Taking Orders

"What I had to face, the hardest parenting I've ever done in my life because when they're little, you just freaking tell them what to do," Ramsey explained. "When they're like grown and paying their own bills and stuff, you don't get to do that anymore. For control people with money like me, it's a real problem."

The challenge intensifies because wealth creates a feedback loop. Ramsey admitted he's gotten "used to" telling people what to do, but his adult children understandably don't always follow his instructions. His solution? He had to repeatedly read self-help books on personal boundaries "otherwise I invade my grown children's boundaries."

"Sometimes when people get money, it makes them more of what they already are, and they learn to control the variables, that's how they get money which is good, it's a good part of control," Ramsey said. "But then you try to control your kids' lives."

Trusts Over Prenups

When it comes to protecting family wealth, Ramsey has his own strategy. He's structured family assets into a trust where only blood relatives have access, meaning a spouse can't claim them in a divorce. In his view, this approach eliminates the need for prenups while still safeguarding generational wealth.

Ramsey recognizes that wealth makes it dangerously easy to become overcontrolling and disregard personal boundaries. He even shared the blunt advice he gave his daughter Rachel and her husband Winston on their wedding day.

"I told Winston when he married Rachel, 'she's your problem, man, that's it, this one's got drama, man, you just better be ready, don't come crying to me,'" Ramsey said. "'And Rachel, don't you come crying to me either, you talk to him, he's your, you're his problem.'"

It's a tough-love approach that reflects Ramsey's broader philosophy: once your kids are adults making their own money, your job is to step back, even when every instinct screams to step in and fix things.

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Dave Ramsey Opens Up About His Biggest Parenting Struggle: Controlling His Grown Children

MarketDash Editorial Team
3 hours ago
Personal finance guru Dave Ramsey admits that being good with money created an unexpected problem in his parenting journey. The wealth expert reveals how his controlling tendencies became a real challenge once his children grew up and started making their own decisions.

Personal finance expert Dave Ramsey has a confession: the same control instincts that made him wealthy have made parenting significantly harder. Turns out, being good at managing money often spills over into trying to manage everything else, including the lives of your grown children.

While responding to a question from a 28-year-old man dealing with wealthy in-laws demanding a prenup, Ramsey got candid about how accumulating wealth changes people. As bank accounts grow, so does the impulse to control outcomes. Money gives you the power to manage countless "variables" in life, which is great for building wealth but becomes problematic when you try applying that same approach to relationships.

When Your Kids Stop Taking Orders

"What I had to face, the hardest parenting I've ever done in my life because when they're little, you just freaking tell them what to do," Ramsey explained. "When they're like grown and paying their own bills and stuff, you don't get to do that anymore. For control people with money like me, it's a real problem."

The challenge intensifies because wealth creates a feedback loop. Ramsey admitted he's gotten "used to" telling people what to do, but his adult children understandably don't always follow his instructions. His solution? He had to repeatedly read self-help books on personal boundaries "otherwise I invade my grown children's boundaries."

"Sometimes when people get money, it makes them more of what they already are, and they learn to control the variables, that's how they get money which is good, it's a good part of control," Ramsey said. "But then you try to control your kids' lives."

Trusts Over Prenups

When it comes to protecting family wealth, Ramsey has his own strategy. He's structured family assets into a trust where only blood relatives have access, meaning a spouse can't claim them in a divorce. In his view, this approach eliminates the need for prenups while still safeguarding generational wealth.

Ramsey recognizes that wealth makes it dangerously easy to become overcontrolling and disregard personal boundaries. He even shared the blunt advice he gave his daughter Rachel and her husband Winston on their wedding day.

"I told Winston when he married Rachel, 'she's your problem, man, that's it, this one's got drama, man, you just better be ready, don't come crying to me,'" Ramsey said. "'And Rachel, don't you come crying to me either, you talk to him, he's your, you're his problem.'"

It's a tough-love approach that reflects Ramsey's broader philosophy: once your kids are adults making their own money, your job is to step back, even when every instinct screams to step in and fix things.